WHAT’S IN IT FOR ME,” has become the mantra of modern society.
The idea of a more altruistic mantra, “WHAT CAN I GIVE,” has been eroded by often misguided focus on consumerism. When we analyze this new ideology, we find we left behind the simple life of sustainability: growing our food, nurturing those we love, and appreciating nature and our surroundings. We lost our ability to feel connected to each other and our planet. This departure from our roots occurred only a little more than a century ago when we began embracing the conveniences and distractions brought on by industrial advancement. Over these last 100 years, we transformed from simple, pure, community-oriented people to “solo acts” trying to upstage each other with fancy material possessions.
Although it’s tempting to suggest that we all give up what we’re doing and return to the simple and natural way, it’s certainly not desirable or realistic for most people. The good news is there is a reasonable and attainable way to find our true essence and still function in our times.
When you wake up, ask yourself this, “If I were to do only things I love, what would today’s to-do list look like?” This practice might seem awkward, maybe even guilt-ridden, at first, but as days become weeks and weeks become months, its grounded and powerful benefits will emerge.
Soon, we might start noticing items on our list that we don’t attain due to lack of interest. Conversely, there may be clear and enriching goals we’re consistently achieving. Of course, this is where we need to spend our time. When we’re true to our progress, the process of doing more of that which we love will start to produce a life
of more passion, fulfillment and true contentment.
Many of you might think this is an untenable proposition. Discord, suffering and negativity are so commonplace today that it can be hard to muster the strength and confidence to pursue loving activities. There are so many people who spend their time blaming others for their problems.
This presents the illusion that a discontent life is normal since so few people seem to be happy and loved.
In fact, when people live an exemplary existence of happiness, they’re even thought of as odd. As we clear the deck and begin the extraordinary process of reestablishing our lives by cleansing and improving our lifestyle, love emerges as a beacon lighting the way. With renewed liveliness and pure emotions pouring from our hearts, we’re returned to a place of concrete sincerity.
Being true to what our heart is telling us is the greatest asset we possess, not our material possessions. It is foolish to cherish the mind more than the heart. This is like being caught in a storm in the middle of the ocean, pondering whether to stay in the boat (heart) or jump overboard to hold onto the rudder (mind). This choice is really a no-brainer because by following the heart, which sometimes says “yes” and sometimes says “no,” we would all remain afloat and free sailing. This doesn’t mean the mind is insignificant. It only means the mind is a tool to fulfilling the heart’s desires.
Love is who we are — even if it does take peeling off the layers to find it deep down inside us. When I was visiting the county pound one day, the caretaker pointed out several animals who had been abused. She commented that all these animals had ever needed was to be cared for. In spite of the fact that many of them had been beaten and starved, they still wanted to be loved.
If people could be genuine enough to allow this inherent instinct to guide them, many of our problems would wash away.
During WWII, there was a well-funded Catholic orphanage in South America. Hundreds of orphans were well-fed and well-clothed and lived in comfortable quarters. But because there were only a handful of nuns to attend to them, the children lacked human touch and consistent, loving attention.
A group of sociologists and psychologists followed the life patterns of this group and found there was an exceptionally high level of basic criminal behavior. The study showed that when loving attention is lacking early in life, people do not see the world as safe and secure. “This developed perception caused these people to strike out at others and institutions, demonstrating their outrage for the lack of love that they had suffered,” the study stated.
Fortunately, most of us were not orphans. Even still, few of our parents spent the time needed to nurture us properly and give us loving and reinforcing touch. This is not because they lacked the desire to nurture us or were unloving, but because of the demands and the societal indoctrination imposed on them. It’s rare to find a healthy and functional family with a mom and dad who not only have the wisdom and fortitude to work out their own emotional baggage independently, as well as to lovingly deal with conflicts as they arise in their relationship, but to bestow these virtues to their children. Ozzie and Harriet, the stereotypical mid-20th century American TV family, is the first example that comes to mind.
Love, being the most basic primordial drive, should not be squelched by a broken heart. We must release our hearts so we can take the feelings of love we have experienced, whether the relationship lasted or not, and offer them out to the world in everything we do. That will bring even greater love to us and those around us.
When our very existence depends on such a powerful ability, we become thrilled to honor it by doing whatever it takes, which reignites the feelings we were blessed with as infants.
When we arrive at that simple and pure place, we won’t be feeling like judging, condemning or resisting life’s fullest bounty.
Innocence is a good thing. It is evidence that we can be completely vulnerable while still possessing extraordinary power. This energy can go into self-development rather than the manipulation and control of others. Our new-found openness will attract the essence of optimal spiritual and biological abilities in their unadulterated form. From this, we will gain ongoing fuel that allows us to return to our innocent and childlike state, removing our learned consumptive natures.
When this is fully embraced, we’ll begin to experience an emerging sense of happiness. This is our normal state. As happiness becomes the standard, we’ll begin to fulfill our unique roles as vessels of joy. This is what allows evolution to a higher standard to occur. Pouring forth authentic feelings from our hearts can only be reciprocated by those who are equally conscious. Normality is harmony, not discord.
All of this produces the ultimate purpose in life, fulfillment. When synthesizing this joyous and organic emotion, we’re finally on the track to greater awareness. Our true purpose is to enlarge our lives by living and giving love as an energy-emitting
act from our very beings. Begin the natural and rewarding process of loving the state of your happiness, which ultimately fulfills your life.
We each can then become one more voice of loving reason and powerful purpose.